Having a child with special needs involves focusing time, energy and resources. While all of this is important, it is equally important to maintain a clear focus on yourself and your needs. It’s very easy to be in the helper mode as a parent and there is nothing wrong with that as long as you are able to examine yourself and how you fit into this life of yours. If you don’t do this you may find that you become unregulated, and burnt out.
The foundation to living a good life no matter what’s happening is to not let what’s going on outside of you determine your life. This takes practice and is easier said than done. Understanding your purpose and priorities will help you to take the necessary steps to live your best life. Ask yourself: How do I like to spend my time and what make life more meaningful? What helps to energize you and brings you peace? Are you implementing this into your life? Is it exercise, reading, religion, yoga, meditation, playing an instrument, talking to a friend, writing, or listening to music? Does this align with how you’re currently living?
I challenge you to pick one thing that energizes you and schedule it into your week. This small action will provide momentum to add more self-care into your life.